Caregiver SOS

In this episode of Caregiver S.O.S. On Air, host Ron Aaron is joined by comedian, author, speaker, and educator Danny Klein-Modisett, founder of Laughter On Call. Danny shares her journey of navigating her mother’s Alzheimer’s diagnosis and how an unexpected moment of humor transformed her approach to caregiving, leading to the creation of an organization that brings comic relief and connection to seniors, family members, and professional caregivers nationwide.

Main Topics Covered

• The Origin of Laughter On Call: How hiring a comedian to engage her mother led Danny to discover the profound impact of laughter on cognition, mood, and trust.

• The Science and Benefits of Laughter: How shared humor releases endorphins and dopamine, boosts oxygen intake, improves memory retention, and helps break down the sense of isolation often felt by those with dementia.

• Affiliative Humor vs. Misuse of Humor: Why inclusive, warm, and bonding humor builds psychological safety, whereas mockery or sarcasm shuts people down.

• Improv & Stand-Up Tools for Caregivers: How adopting a comedian’s mindset—learning to "reset" after a bad moment, letting go of rigid expectations, and avoiding argument through "Yes, and..." principles—prevents caregiver burnout.

• Connecting Through Virtual & Corporate Programs: How Laughter On Call expanded during the pandemic to offer interactive virtual workshops, corporate team-building, and workplace morale-boosting.

Key Takeaways for Caregivers

1. Laughter Builds Instant Trust: A single moment of shared, authentic laughter can lower defenses, build psychological safety, and foster trust between care recipients and caregivers.

2. Practice the Art of the "Reset": Just like a stand-up comic who recovers after a joke flops, caregivers can benefit from letting go of rigid schedules and quickly resetting when things don't go according to plan.

3. Meet Them Where They Are: "Knowing your audience" in caregiving means accepting the individual’s current reality rather than trying to correct them or pull them into yours.

4. Showing Up Matters: Showing up with reasonable expectations and self-care directly impacts the care recipient’s well-being and helps mitigate caregiver depression.

About Dani

Dani Klein Modisett is the Founder/CEO of Laughter On Call. She is also a comedian/actor and author of the book, “ Take My Spouse, Please. ” a part-memoir, part how-to for creating shared laughter to keep your marriage happy and healthy. Dani taught Stand-Up at UCLA for 10 years and has coached keynote speakers, business leaders, and Congressional candidates to use more humor in their communication. She has been a speaker at CALA, ICAA, Stanford, MIT, Columbia, UCLA, Dartmouth, Fuqua and Harvard Business School where Laughter On Call is currently being used as a case study. Her TEDx talk was chosen as an Editor’s Pick, “What My Mother’s Alzheimer’s Taught Me About Alzheimer’s"

Resources Mentioned

• Laughter On Call: laughteroncall.com

• Danny Klein-Modisett: kleincomedy.com

Hosts Ron Aaron and Carol Zernial, and their guests talk about Caregiving and how to best cope with the stresses associated with it. Learn about "Caregiver SOS" and the "Teleconnection Hotline" programs.

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Episode Title: Reframing Aging: Overcoming Ageism in Caregiving & Daily LifeEpisode Summary

Ageism is everywhere—from everyday birthday cards and healthcare visits to workplace dynamics and the subtle ways we talk to ourselves. Yet, despite being one of the most pervasive forms of discrimination, it remains one of the least discussed. In this episode of Caregiver S.O.S. On Air, hosts Ron Aaron and Carol Zernial sit down with Tina Smith, Director of Caregiving Programs at the WellMed Charitable Foundation, to dissect how deeply ingrained age bias impacts both family caregivers and older adults.

Together, they explore the concept of "therapeutic nihilism" in medicine, the dangerous myth that aging equals decline, and how language like "you look great for your age" unintentionally reinforces stereotypes. Drawing from research by the Frameworks Institute and the National Center to Reframe Aging, Tina shares practical insights on how to shift our internal dialogues, build intergenerational connections, and challenge ageist assumptions in daily life.

Key Takeaways & Highlights

• What Is Ageism? How stereotyping and prejudice based on age begin as early as childhood through media, advertisements, and culture.

• The Caregiver Connection: How ageism can skew a caregiver’s view of their care recipient—and how society’s perception of aging adds extra burden to caregivers.

• Ageism in Healthcare: Understanding "therapeutic nihilism," where medical providers dismiss real health issues as "just getting old," and why self-advocacy is vital.

• Language Matters: The power of reframing everyday terms—such as shifting from "senior citizen" to "older adult"—and avoiding subtle backhanded compliments.

• Bridging the Generational Gap: Why ageism cuts both ways, affecting younger generations as well, and how initiatives like Generations Over Dinner foster empathy across age groups.

• Changing Your Internal Narrative: Practical steps to catch yourself when internalizing ageist beliefs and why adding life to our years means rejecting self-imposed limitations. 

About Tina

Tina Smith, Director of Caregiver Programs at the WellMed Charitable Foundation, is a dedicated leader in social gerontology and senior support. Based in the San Antonio area, she oversees operations for the foundation's Caregiver SOS programs, which provide education, resources, and support to family caregivers.

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Hosts Ron Aaron and Carol Zernial, and their guests talk about Caregiving and how to best cope with the stresses associated with it. Learn about "Caregiver SOS" and the "Teleconnection Hotline" programs.

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When family members step into the role of a caregiver, the sheer volume of daily tasks can easily eclipse their own sense of self. In this insightful episode of Caregiver S.O.S. On Air, hosts Ron Aaron and Carol Zernial are joined by Dr. Grace Macalino, founder and CEO of Kapwa AllCare. Drawing from her background as a public health researcher and her personal journey caring for her aging parents—including her mother, who was diagnosed with vascular dementia—Dr. Macalino shares how she developed the Caregiver Identity Framework.

Together, the hosts and guest explore the profound emotional shifts, cultural expectations, and invisible burdens that come with caring for a loved one. They discuss why acknowledging the transition into a caregiver identity is crucial for long-term well-being and how caregivers can reclaim agency, shift from surviving to thriving, and maintain meaningful family relationships along the way.

Key Takeaways & Highlights:

• Understanding the Identity Shift: Caregiving isn't just a list of tasks to manage—it is a major life transition that redefines who you are. Recognizing this identity shift gives caregivers the language and permission to process feelings of overwhelm and loss of self.

• Navigating Cultural and Family Roles: Dr. Macalino reflects on her experience as the eldest daughter in a Filipino household, balancing cultural duty with the reality that no one is fully prepared for the emotional load of caregiving.

• Reclaiming the Original Relationship: The panel discusses the delicate balance between being a caregiver and maintaining your foundational role as a daughter, son, or spouse. Transitioning care—such as moving a parent into memory care—can allow family members to step out of constant caregiving mode and return to being a loving spouse or child.

• Shifting from Survival to Agency: Beyond just "doing," caregivers need tools to regain control, set healthy boundaries, and find moments of joy amidst the challenges.

• The Power of Workplace and Community Support: Kapwa AllCare aims to foster community connection (Kapwa) and support working caregivers, helping employers recognize the needs of their high-performing employees who manage caregiving duties at home.

About Dr. Schauf

Dr. Grace Macalino Schauf, PhD, MPH, is the Founder and CEO of Kapwa AllCare. Drawing on her background in public health and her personal caregiving experiences, she developed the Caregiver Identity Framework, an evidence-informed approach that helps caregivers better understand their journey, reclaim agency, and build sustainable support systems for themselves and their loved ones.To learn more about her work and framework, visit kapwaallcare.com.

Hosts Ron Aaron and Carol Zernial, and their guests talk about Caregiving and how to best cope with the stresses associated with it. Learn about "Caregiver SOS" and the "Teleconnection Hotline" programs.

Caregiver SOS On Air is a presentation of the WellMed Charitable Foundation. For more resources, tips, and past episodes, visit caregiversos.org or email your questions to [email protected].

Ageism is everywhere—built into our greeting cards, embedded in media advertisements, and quietly influencing how we talk to ourselves and our loved ones. But how do the words we choose actually impact our quality of life and the way we care for others?

In this episode of the award-winning Caregiver S.O.S. On Air, hosts Ron Aaron and Carol Zernial sit down with Tina Smith, Director of Caregiving Programs at the WellMed Charitable Foundation. Together, they dive deep into the concept of ageism, exploring both its overt and covert forms, and how it actively limits the expectations we place on older adults and family caregivers.

From navigating "therapeutic nihilism" in healthcare to shifting away from outdated terms like "senior citizen," this conversation highlights the national movement to reframe aging. Tune in to discover how changing your internal voice and being mindful of daily language can completely transform the aging process, foster deeper connections across generations, and help us all live longer, healthier lives without self-imposed limits.

Key Takeaways

• The Power of Reframing Language: The words we use matter. Shifting from loaded phrases like "senior citizen" to more neutral terms like "older adult" can drastically reduce negative connotations and combat implicit bias. Even common phrases like "she looks great for her age" subconsciously reinforce ageist stereotypes.

• Ageism Cuts Both Ways in Caregiving: Ageism heavily impacts family caregivers. It can skew a caregiver’s perception of their care recipient's actual capabilities, leading them to unnecessarily limit an older adult's independence.

• Confronting Ageism in Healthcare: Older adults frequently face "therapeutic nihilism"—a form of medical stereotyping where providers dismiss treatable ailments with a simple, "You're just getting older, what do you expect?" The episode emphasizes the vital importance of self-advocacy and speaking up in medical settings.

• Changing the Internal Voice: Society's obsession with anti-aging often causes individuals to internalize negative stereotypes long before they reach old age. The first step to healthier aging is self-reflection and silencing the internal voice that says, "I'm too old to do this."

• Bridging the Generational Divide: Ageism isn't exclusive to older generations; younger adults also struggle to feel heard in today's economy. Initiatives like San Antonio's "Generations Over Dinner" demonstrate how sitting down and listening across at least three generations can break down mutual stereotypes and lift everyone up.

About Tina

Tina Smith, Director of Caregiver Programs at the WellMed Charitable Foundation, is a dedicated leader in social gerontology and senior support. Based in the San Antonio area, she oversees operations for the foundation's Caregiver SOS programs, which provide education, resources, and support to family caregivers.

Hosts Ron Aaron and Carol Zernial, and their guests talk about Caregiving and how to best cope with the stresses associated with it. Learn about "Caregiver SOS" and the "Teleconnection Hotline" programs.

Caregiver SOS On Air is a presentation of the WellMed Charitable Foundation. For more resources, tips, and past episodes, visit caregiversos.org or email your questions to [email protected].

In this episode of the award-winning Caregiver S.O.S. On Air, hosts Ron Aaron and Carol Zernial sit down with Dr. Grace Macalino, a public health researcher and the founder and CEO of CAPWA AllCare. Drawing from her personal experience navigating the complex journey of caring for her aging parents, Dr. Macalino discusses a critical yet often overlooked aspect of caregiving: the massive shift in personal identity.

When we become caregivers, we easily get swallowed up by "the doing"—the endless list of daily tasks, doctor appointments, and logistics. But what happens to who we are? Dr. Macalino introduces her Evidence-Informed Caregiver Identity Framework, offering listeners a much-needed language to understand the emotional evolution, isolation, and unspoken guilt that comes with stepping into a caregiving role. Whether you are balancing a career, managing long-distance care, or learning how to transition a loved one into memory care, this episode offers a compassionate roadmap to finding agency, setting boundaries, and reclaiming moments of joy.

Key Takeaways

• The Distinction Between 'The Doing' and 'The Being': Caregiver burnout and isolation often don't stem from the physical tasks themselves, but from the unaddressed emotional toll of an eroding personal identity.

• The 'Deafening Silence' of Caregiving: Unlike becoming a parent, society rarely acknowledges or celebrates the massive identity shift of becoming a caregiver, leaving many to feel entirely alone.

• Reclaiming Your Original Role: When the scale tips and you forget you are a daughter, son, or spouse because you are only acting as a caregiver, it is a sign of trouble. Transitioning a loved one to professional care (like memory care) can painfully but beautifully allow family members to step back into their original roles as husbands, wives, or children.

• The Power of Bahala Na: Embracing a cultural mindset of letting go of control—acknowledging that you have done your absolute best and accepting that "it is what it is"—is essential for releasing caregiving guilt and shame.

• Moving from Survival to Agency: By understanding the stages of the caregiver identity, individuals can move past mere survival and gain the agency to keep themselves in control of their own journey.

About Dr. Schauf

Dr. Grace Macalino Schauf, PhD, MPH, is the Founder and CEO of Kapwa AllCare. Drawing on her background in public health and her personal caregiving experiences, she developed the Caregiver Identity Framework, an evidence-informed approach that helps caregivers better understand their journey, reclaim agency, and build sustainable support systems for themselves and their loved ones.

Hosts Ron Aaron and Carol Zernial, and their guests talk about Caregiving and how to best cope with the stresses associated with it. Learn about "Caregiver SOS" and the "Teleconnection Hotline" programs.

Caregiver SOS On Air is a presentation of the WellMed Charitable Foundation. For more resources, tips, and past episodes, visit caregiversos.org or email your questions to [email protected].

In this episode of the award-winning Caregiver SOS On Air podcast, hosts Ron Aaron and Carol Zernial sit down with board-certified geriatric psychiatrist Dr. Thomas Weiss to tackle one of the most challenging chapters in caregiving: identifying and managing early-onset dementia.

Dr. Weiss shares his unique perspective—shaped by both 44 years of psychiatric practice and his own deeply personal family history with Alzheimer’s disease. Together, the panel explores how early-onset conditions alter family dynamics, why behavior shifts are often misdiagnosed, and how modern medicine is finally shifting from a state of demoralization to a new era of hope. Plus, stick around until the end of the episode as Dr. Weiss introduces a brief but powerful look into another growing health crisis for older adults: the physical toll of loneliness.

Key Topics Covered

• Understanding Early-Onset & Rare Dementias: Dr. Weiss breaks down why early-onset dementia (occurring in a person's 40s or 50s) is uniquely difficult for families. He highlights frontotemporal dementia, explaining how it presents not with memory loss, but with dramatic, sudden behavioral changes.

• The Evolution of Diagnosis: Discover how the medical field has evolved from invasive brain biopsies and spinal taps to modern, highly specific blood-based biomarkers that can identify Alzheimer’s disease early.

• "When the Disease Talks": Carol and Dr. Weiss discuss the vital mindset shift caregivers must make: recognizing that aggressive or uncharacteristic behaviors are a physical symptom of a neurodegenerative illness, not intentional actions.

• The Medical Toll of Loneliness: In a striking closing segment, the discussion turns to the isolation epidemic, highlighting research that equates the physical impact of chronic loneliness to smoking 15 cigarettes a day.

Key Takeaways for Caregivers

• Take Your Own Pulse First: Borrowing a medical aphorism, Dr. Weiss reminds caregivers that the first rule of managing an emotional or tense situation with a loved one is to keep calm and manage your own emotions first.

• Pivot to Positive Prompts: When met with resistance (such as a loved one refusing a bath or medication), avoid sharp words. Instead, lead with a compliment, use gentle physical prompts, or lean into music and aromatherapy.

• Accept the Present Reality: One of the hardest parts of caregiving is letting go of past expectations and accepting your loved one exactly as they are right now, rather than fighting the reality of the disease.

• Lean on Community Support: Don't be a "Lone Ranger." Lean on organizations like the Alzheimer's Association to find support groups where you can brainstorm solutions with peers who truly understand the journey.

About Dr. Weiss

Dr Thomas Weiss is a geriatric psychiatrist in solo private practice. He is a graduate of the USAF Academy, UTHSCSA Medical School and completed a fellowship in consultation psychiatry at MGH/Harvard. He is board-certified in four specialties: adult, geriatric, addiction, and consultation psychiatry.

Hosts Ron Aaron and Carol Zernial, and their guests talk about Caregiving and how to best cope with the stresses associated with it. Learn about "Caregiver SOS" and the "Teleconnection Hotline" programs.

Caregiver SOS On Air is a presentation of the WellMed Charitable Foundation. For more resources, tips, and past episodes, visit caregiversos.org or email your questions to [email protected].

Is it possible to not just slow down, but actually reverse advanced Alzheimer’s disease? In this groundbreaking episode of Caregiver SOS On Air, co-hosts Ron Aaron and Carol Zernial sit down with two visionary researchers from Case Western Reserve University who are challenging decades of medical dogma.

Dr. Andrew Pieper, a board-certified psychiatrist and neuroscientist, alongside postdoctoral researcher Dr. Kalyana Chauvi, share the astonishing results of their latest study. Traditionally, Alzheimer’s has been viewed as a chronic, strictly irreversible condition. However, using a class of neuroprotective compounds known as P7C3, their lab has demonstrated that symptomatic, cognitively impaired mice can actually recover their function and clear out brain pathology.

Tune in to discover how targeting cellular energy could completely change the future of dementia care and provide long-awaited hope to millions of families and caregivers worldwide.

Key Takeaways & Highlights

• Shifting the Dogma: For decades, the scientific community believed the best we could hope for was slowing down Alzheimer's progression. This new research proves that the brain is dynamically capable of recovering from advanced neurodegenerative states—even after some cell death has occurred.

• The Power of Cellular Energy: Instead of focusing purely on traditional amyloid plaques and tangles, the P7C3 compound targets the mitochondria. By restoring the brain’s energy levels, the brain is equipped to fight off damage, repair itself, and restore lost memory and learning capabilities.

• The "Aha" Moment: Dr. Chauvi describes the thrilling moment she witnessed advanced, symptomatic mice successfully navigate the Morris Water Maze test after treatment, behaving just like mice that never had the disease.

• Looking to the Future: Learn about the next steps for this research, including the formation of Glengarry Brain Health and the timeline for moving these life-changing discoveries into Phase 1 human clinical safety trials.

About Dr. Pieper

Andrew A. Pieper, MD, PhD, is a board-certified psychiatrist and neuroscientist whose work sits at the intersection of clinical medicine and translational neuroscience. Dr. Pieper earned his MD and PhD degrees from Johns Hopkins University School of Medicine, where his doctoral work in neuroscience under Solomon H. Snyder focused on mechanisms of cell death.

He holds the Rebecca E. Barchas University Professorship in Translational Psychiatry and the University Hospitals Morley-Mather Chair of Neuropsychiatry at Case Western Reserve University, where he also directs the Center for Brain Health Medicines at the Harrington Discovery Institute. His laboratory is best known for pioneering the discovery and development of the P7C3 class of neuroprotective compounds. These energy stabilizing molecules have demonstrated the capacity to prevent pathological hallmarks of Alzheimer’s disease in preclinical models and to restore brain resilience such that pathology is reversed and cognitive function is recovered even with advanced neurodegenerative disease.

About Dr. Chaubey

Dr. Kalyani Chaubey, PhD, completed her Bachelors and Masters degrees in Biological Sciences and Biotechnology, followed by a PhD in Neurotoxicology in India, with her PhD focused on the impact of organophosphorus toxins on the brain.

She joined the Pieper lab for her postdoctoral work, focused on Alzheimer’s disease and related forms of neurodegeneration, and is currently a Research Scientist in the lab working with Dr. Andrew Pieper. Her most recent discovery is

the phenomenon that restoring and maintaining energy balance in the brain is sufficient to both prevent and reverse Alzheimer’s disease in animal models. This is the first demonstration of the ability to achieve recovery and restore cognitive function in animal models of Alzheimer’s disease has prompted a new way for the field to consider this condition.

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Caregiver SOS On Air is a presentation of the WellMed Charitable Foundation. For more resources, tips, and past episodes, visit caregiversos.org or email your questions to [email protected].

What do you do when a loved one begins showing signs of mental illness? For many families, identifying the warning signs, finding accessible care, and overcoming deep-rooted cultural stigmas can feel like an overwhelming, uphill battle. In this episode of Caregiver SOS On Air, hosts Ron Aaron and Carol Zernial sit down with Maria Honigman (Director of Programs) and Olga Rodriguez (Director of Education) from NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) Greater San Antonio to discuss how families can navigate these complex emotional and practical challenges.

Drawing from professional expertise and deeply personal "lived experiences," Maria and Olga break down the subtle behavioral shifts caregivers should look out for, the unique stresses of the "sandwich generation," and the vital importance of prioritizing your own mental well-being while supporting someone else. They also highlight NAMI's extensive, completely free educational programs and support groups designed to ensure no caregiver ever has to walk this journey alone.

Key Takeaways & Main Topics

• Recognizing the Warning Signs: Learn how to identify early indicators of mental health struggles, including sudden mood changes, social withdrawal, increased anxiety or sadness, changes in sleep and appetite, and feelings of hopelessness.

• The "Oxygen Mask" Rule of Self-Care: Why taking care of your own mental and physical health isn’t selfish—it’s necessary. The guests share actionable advice on establishing healthy boundaries, managing caregiver guilt, and using simple grounding techniques to recharge.

• The Sandwich Generation Dynamics: An exploration of the unique communication challenges that arise whether you are an adult parent advocating for a child, or an adult child navigating the resistance of a parent experiencing mental health issues.

• Breaking the Stigma in Faith and Culture: A candid conversation on overcoming cultural barriers—such as the Hispanic proverb "la ropa sucia se lava en casa" (don't air dirty laundry)—and how faith communities can safely bridge religious beliefs with professional mental health advocacy.

• Free NAMI Resources Explained: Discover NAMI’s tailored, cost-free educational classes, including Family-to-Family (for relatives of adults), NAMI Basics (for parents of children under 17), and Home Front (for military and veteran families).

Featured Guests

• Maria Honigman – Director of Programs, NAMI Greater San Antonio

• Olga Rodriguez – Director of Education, NAMI Greater San Antonio

To find a free NAMI support group or educational program near you, search for your local NAMI chapter online or visit caregiversos.org.

Hosts Ron Aaron and Carol Zernial, and their guests talk about Caregiving and how to best cope with the stresses associated with it. Learn about "Caregiver SOS" and the "Teleconnection Hotline" programs.

Caregiver SOS On Air is a presentation of the WellMed Charitable Foundation. For more resources, tips, and past episodes, visit caregiversos.org or email your questions to [email protected].

When a family member chooses to live an isolated life, it can be incredibly difficult to know when—and how—to step in. It becomes even more challenging when that loved one flatly refuses medical help, hides their symptoms, or is dealing with cognitive decline.

In this episode of Caregiver SOS On Air, hosts Ron Aaron and Carol Zernial sit down with Alzheimer’s advocate, researcher, and clinical trial participant Nancy Meserve. Nancy shares a deeply personal and eye-opening account of intervening in the life of her 77-year-old sister, Marie, who had spent years living isolated as a functional hoarder and avoiding medical professionals since 2018.

Through Nancy’s journey—navigating a surprise heart failure diagnosis, massive caffeine misuse, and early-stage dementia—listeners will learn actionable strategies for breaking through a loved one's denial, handling long specialist wait times, and managing the emotional toll of caregiving.

About Nancy

Nancy Meserve is an Alzheimer's disease advocate, researcher, clinical trial participant, and author of The Lived Experience of Participants in Preclinical Alzheimer's Intervention Research, published in the Alzheimer's Association journal, Alzheimer's & Dementia. She is widely recognized for her dedicated focus on documenting and improving the day-to-day lived experiences of those participating in early Alzheimer's research.

Key Topics Covered in This Episode:

• Trusting Your Instincts: Why noticing that "something is off" is your most powerful tool, even when experts or the individual tell you otherwise.

• The Stealth of Isolation: How older adults living alone successfully mask severe physical and cognitive changes, from shuffling gaits to extreme word-finding difficulties.

• Using Urgent Care as a Gateway: How a single trip to an urgent care clinic can bypass years of medical avoidance and unlock critical hospital and specialist referrals.

• Navigating the Neurology Bottleneck: Reality-tested advice on managing long wait times for cognitive care (including 9-month or year-long delays for neurologist appointments).

• Creative Memory Scaffolding: Nancy's brilliant "Staples folder" method using provider photos and bios to build trust and comfort for a loved one who resists strangers or forgets appointments.

Key Caregiver Takeaways:

📌 Scale Back What's "Ideal" — Don't force a radical lifestyle change. Instead, figure out what a healthy, safe "new normal" looks like while still respecting their chosen way of life.

📌 Meet Them Where They Are — Build rapport through things that bring them joy first. Taking a moment to visit a favorite building or park can completely shift a resistant loved one into an agreeable mood for a doctor's visit.

📌 Investigate the Basket & Routine — Take your loved one to the grocery or supplement store. Watching what they buy can reveal hidden issues, such as dangerous amounts of hidden caffeine or unmanaged physical fatigue.

📌 Give Yourself Grace — Intervening with a resistant family member is emotionally exhausting. It is okay to step away, cry, and practice self-care.

Hosts Ron Aaron and Carol Zernial, and their guests talk about Caregiving and how to best cope with the stresses associated with it. Learn about "Caregiver SOS" and the "Teleconnection Hotline" programs.

Caregiver SOS On Air is a presentation of the WellMed Charitable Foundation. For more resources, tips, and past episodes, visit caregiversos.org or email your questions to [email protected].

Amy Fuchs joins host Ron Aaron and co-host Carol Zernial to talk about boundaries in caregiving on this edition of Caregiver SOS.

About Amy

Amy Fuchs, is a licensed clinical social worker and certified aging life care manager. She has decades of clinical experience helping older adults and their families navigate the highs and lows of the aging process. In 2008 she created The Elder Expert, a consulting firm which provides education, care management and coaching services. Amy is an alumni of the University of Michigan, where she received a Bachelor of Arts degree in psychology and then went on to obtain her Master of Social Work from the Wurzweiler School of Social Work in New York City. Amy is an active member of the National Association of Social Workers as well as the Aging Life Care Association. 

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Donna Butts joins host Ron Aaron and co-host Carol Zernial to talk about grandfamilies and kinship caregivers on this edition of Caregiver SOS.

About Donna

 Donna Butts is an award-winning nonprofit executive, author, and trusted voice frequently quoted in the national media. As executive director of Generations United, a role she served in for more than twenty-seven years, she was invited to testify before Congress, address the United Nations, speak before the Federal Reserve Board, and present in more than a dozen countries, including at the World Human Rights Cities Forum in South Korea. She blogged for the Huffington Post for four years, covering intergenerational relations, grandfamilies, and health. Her writing also has appeared in several books and more than a dozen publications. Appointed in 1998 to the first Kinship Care Advisory Panel by then–Department of Health and Human Services Secretary Donna Shalala, Donna has helped pave the way for crucial legislation and support for grandfamilies. She has been a part of eight United Nations expert group meetings on intergenerational solidarity and dialogue, focusing on the changing demographics and the value of older adults. For more information about Donna and Grandfamilies, please visit www.donnambutts.com.

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Neal Shaw joins host Ron Aaron and co-host Carol Zernial to talk about the lack of caregiving training caregivers receive and caring for the older population on this edition of Caregiver SOS.

About Neal 

Neal K. Shah is a healthcare researcher focused on caregiving for the aging population. He is an NIH-funded Principal Investigator on the YayaGuide AI for Caregiver Training project that he started at Johns Hopkins. Neal is also CEO of CareYaya, a social enterprise providing affordable eldercare and bringing thousands of college students into the caregiving workforce. He serves on North Carolina's Steering Committee on Aging. Neal previously managed a $250 million hedge fund in New York City in his mid-30s, when he suddenly became a family caregiver through dementia and cancer, which led him to shift the focus of his career and work to better supporting caregivers. He is active on social media across Instagram and LinkedIn with an audience of over 250,000 caregivers across America.

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Suzy McNamara joins host Ron Aaron and co-host Carol Zernial to talk about caregiving loss on this edition of Caregiver SOS.

About Suzy

 Suzy McNamara is an author, speaker, and caregiving and grief advocate whose work explores the emotional realities of loving someone through loss. She is the author of The Silkworm, The Magician, and The Sister Tree, a deeply human reflection on caregiving, faith, and enduring connection.

In 2024, Suzy lost her husband of 37 years after caring for him at home through early-onset Alzheimer’s, while also grieving the loss of her sister within the same year. These overlapping experiences shape her voice and give her a rare perspective on what it means to lose someone both gradually and all at once.

A mother of four, lawyer, and fundraiser, Suzy writes for those carrying the often invisible weight of caregiving and grief. Her work offers language, companionship, and meaning for people navigating life’s most difficult transitions.

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Karee White joins host Ron Aaron and guest co-host Tina Smith to talk about her caregiving story on this edition of Caregiver SOS.

About Karee

Karee White is a veteran, military mother, and Elizabeth Dole Foundation Caregiver Fellow based in Apex, North Carolina. She and her husband Jim are both veterans. Seven of their nine children have served or are currently serving in the United States Armed Forces—a legacy of service that stretches back nearly 250 years in their family.

Her Story: Karee's daughter Kimmy, an Army paratrooper, suffered a severe traumatic brain injury at 25 years old while forward stationed in Italy following a deployment to Afghanistan. Kimmy was in a coma for a year. When doctors told the family there was nothing more they could do, they brought her home. Fifteen years later, Kimmy is relearning to

walk and can speak a few words. Karee has been her primary caregiver throughout.

Her Book: Ash Woven is officially released April 23, 2026. Karee's memoir traces her family's journey through generational service, sacrifice, and healing. It explores how strength is not newly found in crisis—it is remembered, drawn from those who came before. A portion of the proceeds supports the I Love Everyone Foundation. Available on Amazon.

Her Work with the Elizabeth Dole Foundation: As a Dole Caregiver Fellow with the Elizabeth Dole Foundation, Karee is part of a national network of military and veteran caregivers who share their stories to drive awareness, policy, and support. There are 14.3 million military and veteran caregivers in the U.S. (2024 RAND report), and millions more—including an estimated 2.3 million children—quietly providing unpaid care in those homes. 

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Dr. Paul Bendheim joins host Ron Aaron and guest co-host Tina Smith to talk about providing care using a simple, evidence-based lifestyle on this edition of Caregiver SOS.

About Dr. Bendheim

Dr. Paul Bendheim is a board-certified neurologist, author, and founder of BrainSavers®,

Inc., a company dedicated to helping people reduce their risk of Alzheimer’s dementia by

strengthening and enhancing brain function and overall health through evidence-based

lifestyle interventions. His work focuses on preventing cognitive decline and promoting

brain resilience in aging populations. He serves as a Clinical Professor of Neurology at

the University of Arizona College of Medicine – Phoenix, where he helps educate the next

generation of physicians.

A native of Phoenix, Arizona, Dr. Bendheim earned his undergraduate degree cum laude

in art history from Pomona College, followed by a Doctor of Medicine from the University of

Arizona College of Medicine – Tucson, where he graduated with AOA honors. He completed

his neurology residency and a research postdoctoral fellowship at the University of

California, San Francisco.

Over his distinguished career, Dr. Bendheim has held leadership roles in academic

medicine, biotechnology, and clinical research, including serving as Executive Vice

President and Chief Medical Officer at Mindset Biopharmaceuticals and Medical Director

at Teva Pharmaceuticals Copaxone Division. His contributions center on Alzheimer’s

disease and other dementias, recognizing early in his career that lifestyle modification is a

powerful, evidence-based tool for prevention.

As founder and CEO of BrainSavers®, Dr. Bendheim led the development of the company’s

hallmark program, the Brain+Body Total Fitness Program, an evidence-based framework

combining mental, physical, nutritional, socialization, sleep hygiene and stress

management to foster cognitive vitality and overall health. He is also the author of “The

Brain Training Revolution: A Proven Workout for Healthy Brain Aging,” which details

practical strategies for maintaining mental sharpness throughout life.

Dr. Bendheim lives in Phoenix with his wife, Judith Amiel-Bendheim, a ceramic and jewelry

artist. He enjoys gardening, fly fishing, tennis, reading, and art, and takes pride in spending

time with his children, Jessica and Daniel, and granddaughters, Audrey and Amelia.

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About Maureen

Maureen Groden has been a hospice nurse and educator for several decades. She is the author of When a Loved One Is Dying: Conversations About Care, Connection, and Coping (Johns Hopkins University Press).

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About Brennen

After more than ten years working as a litigator, Brennen Boze turned his efforts toward assisting the elderly, disabled, and their families with securing necessary care, preserving their legacies, and ensuring peace of mind for the future. Brennen obtained his bachelor’s degree from the University of Texas at Austin, where he graduated with honors, and received his J.D. from Baylor Law School, where he was awarded a Public Interest Summer Fellowship to pursue pro bono work. He has appeared in state and federal courts across Texas, representing everything from individuals in crisis to large corporations, and brings over a decade of experience to Bertsch & Boze Elder Law, PC. Brennen is the Chair of the San Antonio Bar Association's Probate, Guardianship and Estate Planning Section and is a member of the National Academy of Elder Law Attorneys. He has been elected a Fellow of the Texas Bar Foundation and a member of the Texas Bar College. He regularly gives presentations to local organizations on the topics of estate planning, probate, and long-term care planning.

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Jillian Shellenberger joins host Ron Aaron and co-host Carol Zernail to talk about FTD in the arts on this edition of Caregiver SOS.

About Jillian

Jillian Shellenberger, M.S., serves as Events Manager at the Association for Frontotemporal Degeneration (AFTD). She specializes in designing meaningful experiences that turn awareness into action and grief into connection. With a background in museum leadership, Jillian helped shape FTD in the Arts at Christie's, creating a space where families affected by frontotemporal degeneration could share their stories through art. 

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Steve Schwab joins host Ron Aaron and co-host Carol Zernail to talk about the Hidden Helpers Coalition on this edition of Caregiver SOS.

About Steve

 David Walsh is a leading entrepreneur. He co-founded Netwatch and as CEO, grew it from a small start-up to a truly global organization, employing 560 staff and serving 250,000 customers. A Stanford University and graduate of UCD, David has been awarded many accolades including Irish Times Business Person of the month, the In-Business Businessman of Year and the inaugural National Enterprise Awards Outstanding Achievement Award. At Netwatch, David assembled a world class team and developed a unique culture that led to 68 quarters of continuous growth and impacted the lives of customers across the World. He has since established another disruptive technology company called HaloCare with a vision to empower people to live independent and healthy lives at home for longer. 

Hosts Ron Aaron and Carol Zernial, and their guests talk about Caregiving and how to best cope with the stresses associated with it. Learn about "Caregiver SOS" and the "Teleconnection Hotline" programs.

David Walsh joins host Ron Aaron and co-host Carol Zernail to talk about care of an older person at home on this edition of Caregiver SOS.

About David

 David Walsh is a leading entrepreneur. He co-founded Netwatch and as CEO, grew it from a small start-up to a truly global organization, employing 560 staff and serving 250,000 customers. A Stanford University and graduate of UCD, David has been awarded many accolades including Irish Times Business Person of the month, the In-Business Businessman of Year and the inaugural National Enterprise Awards Outstanding Achievement Award. At Netwatch, David assembled a world class team and developed a unique culture that led to 68 quarters of continuous growth and impacted the lives of customers across the World. He has since established another disruptive technology company called HaloCare with a vision to empower people to live independent and healthy lives at home for longer. 

Hosts Ron Aaron and Carol Zernial, and their guests talk about Caregiving and how to best cope with the stresses associated with it. Learn about "Caregiver SOS" and the "Teleconnection Hotline" programs.